Sunday, 2 July 2017

Strengths Vs Weaknesses

So the other day I was in a meeting at my daughter's school and got asked the following question:
"what are her strengths?"... I was actually quite taken a back. I mean, we're always so quick to jump to the negatives or weaknesses not only in others but ESPECIALLY ourselves! Naturally, my answer to the question was "ahhh, her attitude" haha! All in good fun of course. On a serious note though, unless you're at a job interview, when else do you ever get asked about your strengths? And at that point you're trying to sell yourself so you're frantically googling the night before about endearing qualities employers find about potential employees. Even then you're still asked about what your weaknesses are.

As a society, why are we so quick to judge? Why are we so quick to point out the negative or weaknesses of others? Is it just human nature? Or are we all just so judgmental and forever doomed in thinking negatively about anything and everything? Because, seriously, that's what I feel like it's come to. There's so many posts on social media and news stories about tragedies and especially when it involves children. I'll admit, I've been there, I've been the judgmental jerk who is gobsmacked and thinks I'm so much better than that person or that situation. I think we've all had a bit of that in us. But do you know who most of the people are that are so quick to judge? It's usually a story about a mother and, yep, you got it! Other mothers bashing down on her. Keyboard warriors at their finest. Social media can be a very cruel place.

I always try to see the good in people... some people are harder than others to accomplish this! I've been a total tool-bag sometimes too, some people just rub you up the wrong way or you get a funny feeling about them, or a weird vibe. Then there's the other side of it - we're our own worst enemy. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and say to yourself "I like what I see"? Yeah, probably a blue moon ago or hardly ever.

So what can we do to recognize our strengths instead of our weaknesses? I've started by making a list. Lists are amazing! And this literally took me 1 minute... if I actually took my time there's so much more I could add to this list.
Notice the top of my list? I'M ALIVE! Be grateful people. We only live once. See your strengths, tell yourself something good about you everyday... even if it's "I put mascara on today" "I need coffee because I have children whom I love that keep me up at night"

Whatever your strengths are, learn to recognize them! Because, mumma's, I guarantee your children think you're the strongest person they know.

Here's to creating chaos! *chink*

Thursday, 29 June 2017

Created Chaos!

This is mine... married to a man-child (hehe!), mother of a 4 year old, a 3 year old plus another on the way. But wait! There's more! 2 dogs and 1 cat and my life can be somewhat chaotic. Yet boring. There! I said it. The life of a stay at home mother can be BORING! And I created it! Isn't it funny the words I use to describe myself? Wife, mother... that's not me completely now is it? I had an identity before I became both of those things.

Don't get me wrong, I love my life, my kids, my little family. And I am grateful my husband sacrifices as much as he does by working long hours so I can stay home with our bub's. But the mundane day-to-day running of a household gets a little dull. And let's face it, some days are better than others. Day in, day out copious amounts of laundry (washing, drying, folding, putting away - seriously who does all that in one day?! Not to mention clothes, towels, sheets, blankets - ugh!) cleaning, cooking... and that's just on the slower days! Then you have days of school drop offs, pick ups, shopping, outings, toilet training, tantrum dodging, children fighting... the list goes on my friends and I'm just getting started!

That's why I wanted to start a blog. To connect, to feel a part of a community, to help others feel like they're not alone. Believe me, I know what that's like! Not that my husband isn't supportive, quite the opposite. But he needs to work and earn a living. Anyone else get to 4pm and message or call hubby to ask what time he'll be home? Gosh, I hope I'm not the only one! I mean, I'd love for us both to be home 24/7 and raise our kids and do more together but the reality is no one can do that unless they win lotto - hashtag onepowerball !

It's hard enough trying to find our way in the world and figure out who we are let alone throw parenthood into the mix! Oi, oi, oi! I get the feeling sometimes that society places stay at home mums in a "lazy" sort of category. Like, we are hard working too, ya know!? And I take my hat off to the working mums with jobs outside of motherhood. I've been there. I went back to work full time when my oldest was 8 months old. Granted, it only lasted 4 months as I fell pregnant with our second but it was hard work. Hats off to my mum though who helped tremendously in looking after our bub and household during the day, but I know not everyone has that kind of support. And this is who I want to reach out to. The every day mum, whether you are working, stay at home, organised, bat sh*t crazy, holding it all together, drinking coffee to keep you afloat, drinking wine to help you "chillax", still finding your way, about to leap into the journey of parenthood or are a seasoned player. I hope you find something relate-able.


So here's to all of our created chaos's - the good, the bad and the ugly! *chink*